Seven Ways to Stay Faithful to Your Spouse

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We hear about it every day in the tabloids, online, on the radio, and more. Cheating. Divorce. Perfectly happy marriages (at least to start) that didn’t end so well. So how do we stay faithful in a world that suggests it’s ok to let go and move on?

In a world filled with cheating and divorce, it can be hard to stay faithful. However, here are seven ways to stay faithful to your spouse, even when it's hard to do so!

While this may look different for everyone, today I want to share the seven ways I stay faithful to my husband.

1. Keep temptation at bay.

As often as I can, I keep temptation at bay. This can sometimes be easier said than done, but I do my best. That old boyfriend, he’s not my Facebook friend. Those books about the cheating and infidelity, they won’t be on my “to read” list. That weekend in Vegas with the girlfriend who I know cheats on her husband – not going to happen.

2. Drink in moderation.

Back in my “wild” days, I could be quite the party girl. It’s not something I’m very proud of, but it happened. I know how I am when I drink, and I don’t want to do something dumb in an alcoholic stupor that cause my marriage to break down. So I’ll simply avoid alcohol altogether or simply drink in moderation when I think there may be a temptation (which is basically always because the devil has a rude way of working).

3. Pray for strength.

This is the one bullet I need to get better about. I’m good about thanking God for all that he’s done for me, but I struggle with asking him for help. It’s as if I don’t think I’m good enough to deserve His help. Slowly I’m getting better, and when I hear or see things that may make me unfaithful to my husband – I pray.

4. Surround yourself with good.

If you have friends who you know are cheating, or perhaps pushing that envelope more than you’d like, you may want to rethink hanging out with them. We’ve all heard – the people you surround yourself with are the ones you become. Your mom was right, choose your friends wisely!

5. Think about what you might lose.

If avoiding the situation or people who might cause you to cheat aren’t working, then think about what you stand to lose. Think about your spouse. Think about your children. Think about your finances or your home. Think about your relationship with God. Whatever it is that you cherish, think about that and how it could change. Are you willing to risk it?

6. Focus on the good.

Focus on all the good things in your relationship. Oftentimes we want to cheat when we feel stuck or unhappy. However, are you really unhappy or is it just a phase? Every relationship has its ups and downs. Finding the good in your partner might be all the incentive you need to remain faithful. I have a journal that I write to my husband. It showcases all the good he does for our little family every day. A quick read of a few pages and I quickly remember what an amazing man he is. Why would I ruin that?

7. Talk to your partner.

Many times when you feel like cheating it’s because something is “off” in the relationship. Talk about it! There was a time during the first year of our marriage where I thought Andrew had feelings for another woman. I stewed about it for months. He claimed she was just a college friend, but she was the only female friend he had – which raised suspicions. Months later, I finally blew up about it! (Um, hello immaturity!) After screaming at him, he started laughing. Turns out she is married to another friend of Andrew’s and they have an adorable little boy. If I had just talked to Andrew about this right away, I would have saved myself months of worry and been able to focus on more important things in life rather than whether he was going to cheat on me.

It can be hard to stay faithful to your partner in today’s world where sex and sin run rampant. However, with these seven tips, I hope you are better prepared to avoid that temptation and live a long, happy, married life.